The Internet & Public Shaming

I’ve been reading Jon Ronson’s book So You’ve Been Publicly Shamed which tells the stories of people who’s lives have been ruined over various levels of mistakes.

You can read a few of these examples in an article published by Ronson for the New York Times last year.  One of these tales is of Justin Sacco who made an inappropriate AIDS joke on Twitter right before a plane ride. Her life was subsequently ruined: lost job, was shunned by her family and received numerous death threats. Her personal brand (or more commonly known as Google Search results) now is forever associated with that stupid tweet.

What this book made me realize is that I’m also quick to judge people on social media and the mob mentality can be very addicting and controlling. People on the internet seem to live on the mistakes people have made, not knowing the lives they may affect through shaming.

I know I personally make mistakes on a daily basis but this “Big Brother” thing where people are always watching is scary. For now on, I’m going to be more considerate before jumping on the internet hate wagon.

In Ronson’s book the shamers often quote themselves saying they “did the right thing” but should the right thing be ruining someone’s life or wishing them dead? I think no, and we need to learn to empathize and educate people instead of taking them down.

Got a Replacement Kobo!

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After a lot of pointless back and forth with Kobo, I finally received a replacement device for my broken one. It’s not something they usually do but they were nice enough to consider it after how upset I was that mine couldn’t be fixed (even for money!).

Took a sick day today so this came with perfect timing so that I can continue staying in bed.

I Met Some Of My Best Friends On The Internet

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Love these peeps 😘

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It would’ve been super weird to say maybe a few years ago, but I met some of my best friends on the internet. I thought it would be very hard to revamp the friend wheel post-school but the web makes it so much easier to find people with similar interests. Often you know what they’re like before you even meet up in person.

But how do you hang out in real life? you may ask. It can start with an invitation to coffee or a meet up with a group of people. The web has made going up to randoms a little bit easier with the phrase, “Hey, I follow you on Twitter!”

Put That Phone Down

Yesterday I went to a Jazz Cartier secret show as an invited guests. Other people cryptically texted a number in a photo and went through a series of clues to get in. As soon we entered, we were told there was no photos or video to be taken. No snapchat or anything allowed.

“Aw crap,” I thought as I had come to this event alone, not knowing if anyone I was familiar with would be attending. After-all it was an exclusive event.

We walked up the stairs to people dressed as hotel stewards, who took our names and coats. On the tables were typewriters as well as roses. The setup was elaborately thought off for the album launch. I absorbed it all in with my eyes instead of my phone.

I had a bit of anxiety trying to figure out what to do since I didn’t see any of my friends around and I couldn’t have a camera to keep me distracted before the show started so I started to talk to people and met some new folks.

I’ve been in the industry for a years now but I still get anxious talking to new people. I’ll have weird thoughts like what if they hate me? or am I wearing the wrong shoes? or how do I not talk about the weather? Like all things, these diminish with practice and I do want to get better at it. The easiest thing is to go somewhere where no cameras are allowed, failing that, just putting the phone down for a little bit is enough.

Let’s Talk About Mental Health

It’s no secret here that I talk openly about mental health. Every January, I have participated in #BellLetstalk, a campaign where Bell will donate 5 cents to mental health programs with every tweet that has the hashtag. There’s a lot of people out there who are rightly critical about the corporate agenda, but as I spoke last year, one day is better than none.

I would’ve killed to feel less alone in 2009, to read the tweets of thousands of millions of people who were in similar situations. It would’ve been wonderful to read the tales of how some overcome their illnesses or how others live with them. I shared my own battle with anxiety here. There was a period of time where I thought exiting this world would be easier than staying in it.

Thankfully, I am still here and willing to share my stories so that I can save someone else’s life. That’s why this day is important. If somebody reads a tweet and it saves their life, even if it’s one person, even if it was because of a stupid corporate hashtag, it is worth it in the end.

Taking the Goodreads Challenge!

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I’m taking the Goodreads 2016 Reading Challenge. I set myself at 52 books which sounds insane but I’ve already read 4 and apparently that is two ahead of schedule! I’ve generally been reading a lot of autobiographies of famous people. Not seen on this list is Aziz’s Modern Romance and Mindy Kaling’s first book which I read in the last week of 2015 and am not counting.

Reading on my commutes (with my sadly broken Kobo) has taught me that I can get a lot of words in while sitting on the train. I haven’t let technological setbacks stop me from reading (I immediately bought an iPad mini). What are some of your favourite books? I’ll add them to my list of to-reads!

Why You Shouldn’t Buy A Kobo

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As you know from a preview post I got a Kobo for Christmas and I loved it. However, after less than a month it already broke. I excitedly took it out of my bag after work to read on the train and was heartbroken when I saw the screen had vertical lines across it. I don’t remember putting impact on it and there isn’t much in my bag besides my wallet. Weren’t these things supposed to be portable?

I promptly submitted a ticket to Kobo and gave them a call. They pointlessly led me through “factory reset” which I already knew would do nothing because I tried it. After that they claimed it was physically damaged (maybe it is?) and that there was no other solution. They don’t do repairs nor can they recommend you a place to send it to do repairs. There are literally no solutions to a broken screen besides buy a new one. I can’t even PAY to get it fixed. But now with such terrible service, why would I want to do that?

I Joined Peach!

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As an early adopter of social networks, I joined Peach last night! It’s a mix between the timelines of Twitter, and the design of Slack, but with more privacy, since you can only see the timelines of people you add as friends.

I still don’t entirely understand what it is for, but I see some potential in it being a fun platform to share photos, thoughts and more. The more I use it and find people to follow, the more I like it!

Add me if you’re on Peach: @tianafeng

My First Kobo E-Reader!

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For Christmas, my parents got me my first dedicated e-reader. Previously, I travelled with real books or I had read e-books on my phone or iPad but that became cumbersome and uncomfortable on the eyes. Until now, I always had thoughts like who would buy a device that just reads books?, but I don’t think that way anymore.
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My new Kobo Glo is just the right travel size, easy on the eyes and has a backlight for reading in the dark. The first book I put on it was Aziz Ansari’s Modern Romance and I’m already more than halfway through it. This will definitely make my goal of reading more a lot easier.

Glovely Touchscreen Gloves

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My boss gave me a pair of glovely touch screen gloves for Christmas! Maybe he thinks I am on my phone too much (sometimes). These are awesome. The entire glove is touch screen compatible (not just the tips like most gloves). They also have a little magnetic logo to keep both gloves together for all the clutsy people who lose gloves (me).

Last but not least, the tag is even a microfibre glove. Now I can stay warm while I tweet and blog this winter.